They go hand in hand....
Without trust, love is nothing. So why does everyone believe that love is what makes the world go round? To be trusted is a much greater compliment than to be loved; trust is the foundation that grows and becomes stronger, making love possible. When mistrust comes in, love goes out. Trust your own instict; A man who doesn't trust himself can never really trust anyone else.
Trust defines itself in every aspect of life and will become part of any situation you are put in. You may be decieved if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough. Trust is like a broken vase: although you can gather all the peices and glue them together, it will never look the same. The more the vase is broken, the smaller each peice will become, some even getting lost in the process; it makes it more challenging to glue each peice together and sooner or later you lose hope and the best option is to give up and never trust again. Defenses start to kick in and a wall starts forming to protect you from getting hurt agian. It's usually around this time when that one person, no different form any other, wanders into your life and without thinking, no matter how broken you already are, you give them a piece of you. He didn't ask for it but you trusted him. That peice, no matter how small or big, is apart of you..and just like that...he threw it away.
In my experience, trust is believing, confiding, hoping and telling someone,who you want to be a part of your life, something that is important to you, on a personal level. You can trust yourself, trust others, and learn to mistrust anyone, rmember that. I have come to realie that trust can't be difined one specific way for anyone because for each person it is different. Every person on this planet has been through difficulties and experiences that will lead them to think differently. For some, trust is not an issue, for others it's a never ending struggle. I've learned to trust myself, to listen to truth, to not be afraid of it and to not try and hide it. When you put trust in yourself, trust won't be an issue with others. Don't doubt who you are and hat youc an do, that is the greatest obstacle to conquer in order to trust yourself. Once you learn to trust yourself, you will find the truth about your ways to define trust to fit you.
My trust is earned. It's built up and made stronger with all the secrets that are kept, the lies that aren't told and the loyalty that has held strong through each relationship. Once my trust is broken, it will never be the same, just like the borken glass. The cracks will always be visable and will forever set a reminder of the betrayal that shattered the perfect, smooth, uncracked glass surface that once was. There is no half cracks in the essentials of trust. Trust is what makes a bond between two people strong but eventually we need to free ourselves of fear and take a leap of faith. Trust that your heart will be taken care of, and that those you trust will not break you further. We're never so vulnerable thatn when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. What if we trust with our hearts rather than our heads? Would trusting someone become effortless? More pleasing? Eitherway trust is inevitable; it is important because it allows us to form relationships and more dependable on others - for love, for advice, for help. It's a scary thing, I know. It's risky business and under no curcumstances is trust warranted. I guess at some point you have to trust 'trust' and hope for the best.
Trust will always be a part of life, it is essential for growth. It makes the world spin and without it, love would be nothing. Let go of the fear of betrayal, because at some point in your life people will let you down, someone will tell a secret and someone you cared for the most WILL break your heart. Begin to trust and love will come easy....once mistrust starts to come in and you allow it to take over, love vanishes. In life, there are no mistakes, only lessons. Trust yourself, love others, and everything is possible. Have faither and one day the essentials of trust will fill your heart and love will bloom.